Ebb & Flow: the poetry of Deja Rae

Already Rae has been keeping a diary for as long as she can remember. It wasn’t until a spontaneous conversation with her roommate that she decided to start sharing her words with the world. Since its inception two years ago, his poetry and prose account has gained over 40,000 followers on Instagram and 18,000 followers on TikTok.

“Everything I write is based on something I’ve experienced before,” she said.

Already Rae does not coat anything. His words express raw emotions that often get lost in the shuffle. Drawn to the human condition, she has an innate ability to turn some of the most complicated feelings into simple, eloquent words. Her writing reminds readers to embrace and accept their struggles. She shares her thoughts on topics like faith, relationships, and her journey to finding self-love.

If we don’t practice self-love, we will
look for that love elsewhere.

We’ll assume that the love we long for is
in the hands of another human. We’re going
betraying oneself, putting others on a pedestal,
and lower our self-esteem just to grab
scraps of affection.

Sweet friend, the love you seek
is inside of you.

Keep digging.

A native of San Jose, she attributes her poetic clarity to countless intriguing walks along the shore.

“I think the beach really shaped me as a writer because it allowed me to have this quiet place of solitude to really go inward.”

In 2020, she took a year-long trip south to Venice, California. While she was away, she was always drawn to the beach, often taking contemplative 15-mile runs as the waves crashed beside her. She speaks fondly of her time there, calling it the most transformative year of her life.

Shortly after this trip, she had a “spiritual feeling” that it was time to start mapping her very first collection of writing. The title came easily: Ebb and flow. The organization of the chapters reflects a cyclical pattern of emotions that we all too often face. Already Rae refers to his chapters as “seasons,” implying that, like nature’s patterns, past experiences are bound to resurface.

“The whole concept of Ebb and flow is that yes, we’re all on this journey more and more, but once we learn a lesson, we’ll probably have to learn it over and over again for the rest of our lives – and that’s okay,” said she declared.

You don’t have time for anyone
who doesn’t have time for you.

Let me repeat it.

You don’t have time for anyone
who doesn’t have time for you.

Ebb and flow is therapeutic reading – reading that assures readers that they are not alone in their complicated feelings. Despite the wisdom she shares in the book, Deja Rae admits to readers that even she, the author, is a work in progress. She says writing gives her the opportunity to dissect her own feelings, and in turn, she hopes it can also help others achieve some level of personal healing.

One of his favorite pieces from Ebb and flow is to receive a “half love”.

If you want half love
You’ll have to find another heart
I don’t give my love to pieces
I don’t give my love in parts

If you want empty kisses
You’ll have to look elsewhere
I don’t need your kind words
I can fully love myself

If you are looking for a solution
If you need a loving touch
You can find another woman
I’m not your lustful crutch

If you fancy a filler
If you need satisfaction
you should look inside yourself
Instead of looking for distractions

I am not your attraction played
I am not your sex transaction
I don’t need your reactions
I don’t give my love in fractions

“At that time, I was going through a situation with someone where I was getting half love. [The poem] it was kind of me putting my foot down and saying, I am no longer content with half love.

Midway through the publishing process, Deja Rae moved to New York City, where she is currently pursuing a master’s degree in data analytics. Although it took him some time to adjust to the sounds of the crashing waves to the noises of street construction, his creativity did not stop flowing. In fact, she’s nearly finished her next book, which is due out later this year.

Regardless of what comes next, Deja Rae will continue to foster a space that both normalizes and celebrates the often arduous journey of personal growth. Her writing is unapologetic and invites readers to embrace long-stigmatized emotions.

“I think the more we can surrender to the process [of growth], the more comfortable we can be. Every time I’m in a tough season now, I remind myself that it’s only one season and it’s not forever.


An earlier version of this story described a trip to Venice, Italy. It was corrected in Venice, California.

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